After our youngest was born, we actively designed the lifestyle our family would lead. We left Southern California and moved to a family-friendly neighborhood with good schools in North Texas. We chose jobs that would allow us to be home at night and on weekends with our kids. We became soccer coaches and Girl Scout leaders and we drove mini-vans. Our lifestyle design focused on parenting, community involvement and achievement.
Fast-forward 16 years and our youngest is getting ready to leave the nest. We’ve learned much about ourselves and our values during that time and we no longer measure our success by external achievements.
Moving is in our future. We are looking forward to down-sizing (no need for the big family house and yard now) and are thinking about what we want our lifestyle to look like. We have some limitations (location due to work; double college tuitions) and a lot of new wants:
- Walkable (at least to the local bar and/or breakfast establishment)
- Manageable (we don’t want to have to hire people to paint our walls or clean our gutters)
- Low-maintenance (after the initial move, we don’t want to spend all of our time and money on our house; ideally a lock-and-go situation)
- Personal (we want to live in a house that actually represents our style and values instead of worrying about re-sale value)
It’s hard to live in the present when the present no longer reflects your values.